On Intimate Strangers
On Losing Friends
Sometimes I find I'm like The Doctor, and I'm the one who has left my companion, imagining I'd never come back.
On Technology & Virtual Friendships
Some of my closest friends I will never meet in person because this world of social media has given me extraordinary new friends.
It has also helped me renew friendships with people I thought were lost forever. People who knew a different me. An earlier version. In my early days on Facebook I reconnected with a few of my best friends from 4th grade. Kids I met at about age 8 or 9, I guess. I found it remarkable that we are much the same as we were in grade school. Grown, different in ways I didn't anticipate, but still the same.
We were a military family, which I credit with why I don't have friends from my early childhood. The year I started 4th grade was when we moved to Governors Island, a base here in NYC. I was twelve when my family left. Several of the friends I made during that time became "lifelong" friends.
Did those bond stick because we were all military brats who knew the drill, or because we tried harder because of our semi-nomadic lifestyle? Or is it like Stand By Me - we never have friends again like we did when we were twelve?
The most important part of friendship is being true to ourselves & honest with our companions.
Friendship, like Life, is Dynamic.
The friendships that end aren't any less important than the ones that last.
Each person we take as our companion has the potential to alter our perspective. This is to be valued regardless of how the friendship started, how long it lasts, or how often you get to share space.