Why Expectations are Easily a Bitch: An Airport Allegory.

One day I found myself sobbing, bitterly disappointed, and unable to see what would happen next. The reason for the outburst is genuinely irrelevant, because after a few minutes the storm passed.

As is my way, I tried to look for the silver lining in what seemed like a stormy sky. In that moment this #QueenOfSilverLinings realized I wasn't seeing anything clearly at all. 

My situation was less like the sky & a whole lot more like navigating a transportation hub.  

Let's say you find yourself in an airport. You're schlepping along down the corridor with all your gear, and it's a pain, right? Maybe you are struggling a bit, juggling all your shite and whatnot, but you're getting there.

The gate is down this hall & you have forward motion.

Then you see a series of those moving pathways, and you're psyched. This is what you needed!! 

Now you hadn't been wishing for them, per se, but as long as they are there, why not try it out!? 

So you shift over, jump on, and now you're walking while the path is moving. Sure enough, it's a little easier & certainly a bit faster. Naturally, you're totally on board with this new way to get to where you're headed. 

Then you reach the end of that pathway and you stumble and maybe even lose all your shite for a minute. You have to stop, put yourself back together and start walking down the corridor the same way you had been. 

So maybe when you see the next pathway you need to think about it. Upon reflection you decide the time saved was worth that stumble. Now you know how to handle that exit, so you'll be prepared this time. You've readied yourself to jump on that moving pathway. 

Only when you reach it, it's blocked off. Broken. You CANNOT go that way. 

Once again, you just stop. Maybe you lose all your shite again. Because now you were all prepared to go that way. You had accepted that was the path you were supposed to take. 

Although you had never wished for that pathway to appear, when you can't go that way, you are genuinely disappointed. Maybe even angry. Because of your expectation, you now feel defeated. 

And it actually takes a few minutes before your brain comes around to the fact that there is nothing wrong with how you were moving toward your gate to begin with.

The fact is, the goal is still reachable; the only thing keeping you from getting to the gate is YOU.  

If you stop worrying about the path you can't take and focus on how you can move ahead.

Just keep moving forward. 

#ExpectationsCanBeRoadBlocks
#KeepMovingForward
#BeFierce #BeKind #BePositive

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